Dear John

Dear John

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Ah yes Davy, to end what you know you must, when feelings are strong still but not enough. This I believe is why some choose to hate or destroy. It’s easier! And perversely is most likely borne from a deep like, mutated into dislike, in order to process.

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    You make a very good point here Nigel and sometimes not having the courage to end the relationship can make it more destructive. As you say, in the long run resentment and hatred become the easier option. Thank you for these thoughts.

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Davy, such deep thought this very white morning.
But is it really imperfection? Love.
Or is it that humans often can’t fully embrace it and give ourselves over.?
Miriam ☃️

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    A very interesting thought Miriam. It is maybe that reluctance to fully embrace and give ourselves over to love that creates the complexities. Or is it having done it once, and been hurt, we never trust to dive in again? Your response has me thinking even more about this Miriam so thank you, and hope you are safe in the snow.

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      You are so right Davy about trust. Without trust love can’t take root.
      Could be a long evening’s talking.
      I am o.k. with the snow so far, took some beautiful photos this morning. However, going out driving does not tempt….could bring my old skis down.:)

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      We seem to be missing it here Miriam, but am told we could be getting it in the next 48 hours. I may need to borrow your skis 🙂

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Such a thought provoking piece Davy..is it really love”s imperfection or man’s lack of ability to love perfectly?

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    Thank you for this thought provoking thought Mich. As someone who eventually found true love when not looking for it, I would say it could be also a lack of awareness. Men are complex when it comes to love, in my case guided on many occasions by stupidity. It took the right lady to point me in the right direction.

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Powerful writing, Davy. The imagery is stunning, final words crumpled on the floor, that’s a line I won’t forget. 🙂

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    Thank you Gwen and I appreciate that you enjoyed the poetry and the image and that line in particular. Love can be a complex area for the poet, especially when the poet is a man 🙂

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interesting lines Davy as always provoking my sensible thoughts. your lines made me conclude that men are sometimes kinder than women, wanting to choose the right words to say something difficult or confront a tricky situation. hence the collection of crumpled words on the floor, as no words seem worthy enough to soothe a woman’s heart, and oh how they try. I am so fortunate to have a man that uses his words to woo and coax and cajole and also humour me. and we women should take those words seriously, not listen carelessly and disregard the emotion and effort that went into creating the lines. I really like these 3 lines, they tell me that love is never perfect and in our own imperfections we have beauty that defies logic, because when we love, we see beyond the imperfections.

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    Thank you for this heartfelt response and for using your own personal experience to illustrate the complexities of love. I sometimes think when we are with the right person we learn to develop the true love and you highlight a key ingredient of listening carefully. If Mr. G gets stuck with the humour tell him I have lots of Tommy Cooper jokes guaranteed to help cupid draw her bow 🙂

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      haha thanks Davy, he says he knows that genre very well, and rolled his eyes when I mentioned it! I used to think he never listened when I spoke, but surpise! he does and even quotes me verbatim some times! I read somewhere a long time ago, that for a relationship to work a man must love a woman and a woman respect a man, that’s the right equilibrium of emotions. I am finding this to be quite true. Finding that right person may take time and patience but it is truly worth all the effort and all the toads we have to endure! always a pleasure to drop by and read your posts Davy and thank you for accomadating my long comments!

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      A wonderful way of putting it Gina and you are always welcome here for a good conversation. I think the toads help us to appreciate when the right person comes along. I shall forward any relevant jokes to be used as necessary 🙂

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Thanks for this important senryu, Davy. So true, Love is imperfect because too much of it relates to self rather than to the loved one, and I can’t see how that can be avoided. Perhaps a really true love would define ‘saintly’.

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    Very true Roland and thank you for raising a great point here. I agree, sometimes we can become so involved with our own egos we can forget about our loved one. True love is something difficult to describe in words.

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Sad, but true.
Great write, Davy!

I never wrote a “Dear John” letter (unless I was writing to a man named John. 😀 ), but years ago I knew a few men who got “Dear John” letters and they sounded devastated. One of them got that letter while he was serving in the military in a war zone. 😦

Now I think people write “Dear John” texts. Ack. 😦 Or they break up on Facebook. Ugh! 😦

I guess it IS easier to write tough words than to say them face-to-face. I still prefer face-to-face, though.
HUGS!!! 🙂

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    Your response made me laugh and sigh in a few moments Carolyn. I had never considered Dear John texts and this new world must make breaking up much colder. As you say face to face is much braver and better. Although if mobile phones and texts had been around when I was a teenager I think I would have been ditched many more times than I was lol 🙂

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      I like making you laugh! YAY! 😀

      Yeah, I’ve heard that people share some pretty important things (that should be shared face-to-face or a phone call) on social media these days. Ha. Weird times. :-/

      Aw, well I can’t imagine anyone ditching you.

      HUGS to you and Mrs. D!!! 🙂

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      Lol Carolyn. I was having this conversation with my daughter and telling her as a teenager I was getting ditched most weeks. Too many devils sitting on my shoulder 🙂

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Hmmm, the easy way out? Brilliant piece.

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Loves imperfections is what makes it so perfect. 🙂

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Damn cool, Davy. It’s an awesome haiku.

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Great post! But if you are writing it to a girlfriend is it a Dear John letter? Or is is a Dear Johanna letter? Or are guys the only ones that get Dear John letters? I agree with Carolyn, that it is better to put difficult words on paper, but less civil or polite. “Hundreds of Crumpled words lie on the floor” sounds like a lot of target practice, but not really wanting to pull the trigger?? At least you had some one that was going to drop you? You make me jealous! Ha!

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